Can I help someone improve themself...
...without coming across as an asshole? I've been having this problem with one particular friend at uni who's a great girl, but she does some really self-depreciating/annoying things i.e. unloading her problems onto everyone and making self-deprecating jokes so that everyone else will compliment her.
Now I know that these are pretty textbook "symptoms" of low self-confidence, but how can I tell her to stop doing them without sounding like an ass?