Dominant women, passive men

Zacman · Aug 5th, 2006, 05:07 PM

Anyone here in, was in OR would like to be in a relationship like this?
Maybe you know someone.

Waduya think DI?

Ambiguity · Aug 6th, 2006, 02:31 AM

BDSM != BuDdhiSM

Boy did that search result surprise me.

too-far · Aug 6th, 2006, 02:48 AM

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Originally Posted by Ambiguity

BDSM != BuDdhiSM

Boy did that search result surprise me.

Indeed....

travelyogatrance · Aug 6th, 2006, 11:54 AM

No to all of the above. I want my partner and I to stand on equal footing, to balance each other, both of us sometimes getting what we want, and sometimes acquiescing (sp) to the other. Compromise is the name of the game~

Zacman · Aug 6th, 2006, 12:03 PM

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Originally Posted by travelyogatrance

No to all of the above. I want my partner and I to stand on equal footing, to balance each other, both of us sometimes getting what we want, and sometimes acquiescing (sp) to the other. Compromise is the name of the game~

Sound good to me TYT.

wanderer · Aug 6th, 2006, 05:55 PM

Totally non-conducive to long term relationships. the guy is handing over his balls, basically. the women will eventually come to resent him.
For bedroom fantasy sh!t---fine.
This is assuming both are monogamous and heterosexual, otherwise there is a whole shift in dynamics. whatever floats your boat.

DiBBLeS THe CaT · Aug 8th, 2006, 11:17 AM

Miss Piggy and Kermit comes to mind..

A Cute Couple.. But headed for Disaster..

MISSLINEY007 · Aug 12th, 2006, 03:23 PM

I think I am like this only for one reason.

Most of the guys I date dont make decisions fast enough and I get antsy and make it for them.
I dont dominate bad, I just like to be in control. I do everything on my own and if you want to hop in my ride go for it, but just to let them know that im the driver and they are my passenger.

Zacman · Aug 13th, 2006, 06:43 AM

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Originally Posted by MISSLINEY007

I think I am like this only for one reason.

Most of the guys I date dont make decisions fast enough and I get antsy and make it for them.
I dont dominate bad, I just like to be in control. I do everything on my own and if you want to hop in my ride go for it, but just to let them know that im the driver and they are my passenger.

Wow ML, I woulda never guessed you roll like that. I always thought you were a kitten

but now I know you're a biter

mmmmm

Soooo...what are YOU doing Saturday night......or Sunday night?

Pb · Aug 13th, 2006, 11:40 AM

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Originally Posted by MISSLINEY007

I just like to be in control. I do everything on my own [...]

It's called "being independent". ^_^

Rody Angel · Aug 21st, 2006, 10:40 PM

i am a very passive boy, i want a girl too passive and tender

, dominant never, because best i am alone

its-exit · Aug 21st, 2006, 11:52 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Zacman

Anyone here in, was in OR would like to be in a relationship like this?
Maybe you know someone.
Waduya think DI?

Sadly, the majority of good relationships end up with the man giving over the power to the woman... and then the woman losing respect and eventually resenting her man....

I see it all the time. And the sad part is... woman dont usually want to be "dominant" in a relationship...... the guys just turn into wussies

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pb

It's called "being independent". ^_^

Being in control has nothing to do with independence....

besides..... control is merely an illusion.

Pb · Aug 22nd, 2006, 07:30 AM

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Originally Posted by its-exit

Being in control has nothing to do with independence....

Read her post again. Being independent has nothing to do with controlling someone else.

Beatseeker · Aug 22nd, 2006, 10:26 AM

[quote=its-exit]Sadly, the majority of good relationships end up with the man giving over the power to the woman... and then the woman losing respect and eventually resenting her man....

I see it all the time. And the sad part is... woman dont usually want to be "dominant" in a relationship...... the guys just turn into wussies

'Tis true, 'tis true. I just cut a realtionship full of good love and fx for the very same reason..I lost respect for a man I once so admired. I didn't want to be dominant. Equality's the best but exactly how it got to be disproportionate...I don't really know.

its-exit · Aug 22nd, 2006, 01:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Beatseeker

'Tis true, 'tis true. I just cut a realtionship full of good love and fx for the very same reason..I lost respect for a man I once so admired. I didn't want to be dominant. Equality's the best but exactly how it got to be disproportionate...I don't really know.

The truth is.... guys turn into wussies because they don't know how to handle the tests and little games women play while in a relationship. Sometimes we just forget we're being tested.... or sometimes we just let our feelings take over how we behave... giving in more and more each day till the woman eventually becomes 'dominant'......

It's both the woman and the man's fualt....... but more so the mans.

its-exit · Aug 22nd, 2006, 01:18 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pb

Read her post again. Being independent has nothing to do with controlling someone else.

Read my post again..... i said nothing about controllng someone else

Pb · Aug 22nd, 2006, 10:01 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by its-exit

Read my post again..... i said nothing about controllng someone else

Hrmm, sorry, I don't get it. Mind explaining what the difference between being independent and being in control (of oneself?) is?

Jeremy Micheal · Aug 22nd, 2006, 11:42 PM

dominant woman in the sack yes, but in a relationship no. love when a woman takes control, of course this just relates back to the whole younger guy older woman theard.

Zacman · Aug 23rd, 2006, 12:09 AM

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Originally Posted by Jeremy Micheal

dominant woman in the sack yes, but in a relationship no. love when a woman takes control, of course this just relates back to the whole younger guy older woman theard.

I can hear her now.
"Who's yer mommy?"

its-exit · Aug 23rd, 2006, 12:33 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pb

Hrmm, sorry, I don't get it. Mind explaining what the difference between being independent and being in control (of oneself?) is?

lol... im sitting here trying to figure out what she ment... then what you ment.... and then what i ment thinking what she and you ment to begin with.....

so im a little confused just like you....

I think the way i understood what you said to be... "in control of a relationship" makes you an independent person... because you Quoted

Quote:

I just like to be in control. I do everything on my own [...]

and then called it "being independent".....

controling someone else has nothing to do with being independent.... however i can see how controlling your own life might be considered 'being independent'..... but like i said to begin with...... CONTROL is an illusion....

To awnser your question:Mind explaining what the difference between being independent and being in control (of oneself?) is?

Being independent to ME means taking responsibility for your actions and taking it upon yourself to do everything in order to live your life style. Basically you're self reliant.

Being in control of oneself is being able to restrain oneself when needed.

hope i cleared that up

Aug 5th, 2006, 05:07 PM	#1 (permalink)
Zacman DI Extreme Addict Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Barbados Posts: 1,182	Dominant women, passive men Anyone here in, was in OR would like to be in a relationship like this? Maybe you know someone. Waduya think DI? __________________ "Everything that can be invented has been invented." Charles H. Duell, U.S. office of patents,1899

Aug 6th, 2006, 02:31 AM	#2 (permalink)
Ambiguity DI Extreme Addict Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: SlashDot Posts: 4,169	BDSM != BuDdhiSM Boy did that search result surprise me. __________________ Right side up after a very long time...

Aug 6th, 2006, 11:54 AM	#4 (permalink)
travelyogatrance Daydreaming Globetrotter Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: a castle in the sky Posts: 9,362	No to all of the above. I want my partner and I to stand on equal footing, to balance each other, both of us sometimes getting what we want, and sometimes acquiescing (sp) to the other. Compromise is the name of the game~ __________________ Earth radiates her brilliant beauty ~ music is my 1st love ~ edm 4 life All aboard travelling into a trancetastic future -d_o & I Keep the peace flowing, the love growing, the unity going Let the music take control of your body and your soul

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MISSLINEY007 DI Extreme Addict Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Texas dammit!( But from C Posts: 2,753	I think I am like this only for one reason. Most of the guys I date dont make decisions fast enough and I get antsy and make it for them. I dont dominate bad, I just like to be in control. I do everything on my own and if you want to hop in my ride go for it, but just to let them know that im the driver and they are my passenger. __________________ crazy is doing the same thing and expecting a different outcome.

Aug 21st, 2006, 10:40 PM	#11 (permalink)
Rody Angel DI Chronic Addict Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Puerto Rico Posts: 5,450	for me passive i am a very passive boy, i want a girl too passive and tender , dominant never, because best i am alone __________________ I LOOOVE ALL BLONDE GIRLS!!!!!! SOON, HEAVEN VOCAL FOR THE SKY VOL.14 http://forums.di.fm/shameless-self-promotion/dreamtrancex_heaven-vocal-for-the-sky-mixes-120530/index13.html#post3955498

Aug 6th, 2006, 05:55 PM	#6 (permalink)
wanderer Senior Forum Addict Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: terra-opal*sub-5; zodiac Posts: 625	Totally non-conducive to long term relationships. the guy is handing over his balls, basically. the women will eventually come to resent him. For bedroom fantasy sh!t---fine. This is assuming both are monogamous and heterosexual, otherwise there is a whole shift in dynamics. whatever floats your boat.

Aug 8th, 2006, 11:17 AM	#7 (permalink)
DiBBLeS THe CaT Senior Forum Addict Join Date: May 2006 Location: GeDWiCKS BaRN Posts: 883	Miss Piggy and Kermit comes to mind.. A Cute Couple.. But headed for Disaster..

Aug 22nd, 2006, 10:26 AM	#14 (permalink)
Beatseeker Junior Addict Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Brighton, UK Posts: 29	[quote=its-exit]Sadly, the majority of good relationships end up with the man giving over the power to the woman... and then the woman losing respect and eventually resenting her man.... I see it all the time. And the sad part is... woman dont usually want to be "dominant" in a relationship...... the guys just turn into wussies 'Tis true, 'tis true. I just cut a realtionship full of good love and fx for the very same reason..I lost respect for a man I once so admired. I didn't want to be dominant. Equality's the best but exactly how it got to be disproportionate...I don't really know. __________________ Something like a phenomenon. Tell your body to come along.

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Jeremy Micheal DI Extreme Addict Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Astral Plain Posts: 3,022	dominant woman in the sack yes, but in a relationship no. love when a woman takes control, of course this just relates back to the whole younger guy older woman theard. __________________ ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ COME TO THE DARKSIDE, WE HAVE COOKIES!!! Drigh: "we're not paid tech support" Check out "Lightest Shades of Gray" in the SSP thread

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