Girls...can you EVER fall for your best guy friend?

MaxPower · Jul 18th, 2011, 09:19 AM

So, Im gonna cut to the chase...I been in love with my best friend for 3 years now...we been friends since we were 15...im 28 now...never had these feeligns for her...we owuld go out in groups, never once thought of her as more...until 3 years ago i got her a job with me, and 6 months later i was hooked - Ive told her a fwe times how i felt, she knows...but its just never going anywhere, and i dont know what else to do anymore...im DEEP in the friend zone...she tells me "problems" with her receent boyfriend, but never good things...a whole year and i ONLY HEAR about the bad things and how they broke up...she complains to me constantly...and im always there to listen and help her...I do evertyhign for her..i feel like im the bf with none of the good stuff...lol while she goes out with other guys....I WANT to be her friend, but i cant get rid of the feelings...it doesnt help that i see her EVERY SINGLE DAY at work...I guess i just wanna know IF she were to EVER change her feelings...what is my best course of action...like to i continue to be nice, or ttreat her like crap? I cant say no to her, and i want to do SO much more and BE so muhc more to her....

Xiare · Jan 6th, 2012, 11:50 AM

Not me. But test out the possibility. If, in conversation, you stand slightly closer to her, does she move closer or pull away? That's a pretty good guage of your immediate chances.

lilacfairy · Jan 8th, 2012, 09:22 AM

given that you've told her and that she has declined, and that she tells you stuff she'd usually only tell her girl friends, altogether I'd say you're pretty much without a chance. sorry! she knows you too well to never have noticed that she might be attracted to you and she knows all your little faults too well to ignore them. One of my best friends is a guy and even though he's attractive, over time I got to know all his little flaws, that I don't mind in him as a friend ... but in a relationship they would drive me mad! all in all, when a girl says she's not into you, she means it, trust me. if you persevere, you only risk losing her as a friend as well.

Ale>< · Jun 7th, 2012, 03:40 PM

Sorry to hear that bro, thats not a good position to be in.

Chances are, if you were both into each other in 'that way' it would've happened naturally by now. You could try just asking her outright how she feels, but honestly, that will probably just drive a wedge between your friendship and you could risk losing what you already have with her. A close friendship is a beautiful thing and i think you'd be better off trying to ignore those feelings for the sake of your friendship. I'v seen close friends of mine try to do the whole dating thing and it never works out. They just end up becoming friends again or avoiding each other completely.

Sorry, it's not what you wanted to hear but i wish you all the best and i hope it works out for you.

Oleg · Jun 8th, 2012, 03:25 PM

Some girls just want to be friends, and nothing more than that. Ah as man we always want hot girls :-)

sandrakannglassman · Jun 30th, 2012, 12:45 AM

I have fallen for all my guy friends. They love me and can't resist me. I like knowing that all men want me.

Ale>< · Jul 1st, 2012, 07:01 AM

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Originally Posted by sandrakannglassman

I have fallen for all my guy friends. They love me and can't resist me. I like knowing that all men want me.

<---- an actual representation of the size of your head compared to the rest of your body.

djlindo · Aug 4th, 2012, 10:59 AM

Your chances aren't really there until she realizes she misses you terribly.
All girls like an asshole to a certain extent. Don't be just an asshole, but keep her entertained. You might be too much of a pushover for her to be interested like that.

Advice: Don't be there for her always, play standoffish but when you do talk to her for a quick minute make sure you keep her laughing and in a great mood. If all goes well, she'll miss you and wonder why you're being so "distant." If not, you're already too deep into the friend zone like someone else said and she doesnt want to mess up your guys friendship to test anything more.

~~shazz~~ · Sep 26th, 2012, 03:31 PM

Don't listen to any of the w0men...you have a better chance of meeting jesus at your local titty club and having said jesus turn water into wine and buy you a lap dance before a w0man will convert a "friend" to a "boyfriend"
If you are so stupid as to try ..... give me $500 I'll take you out back kick you quare in the nuts and we can call it even!

So if the bitch puts you in the friend zone and you want to bone her....do what any good man would do....find her best firiend/sister/mother/twin...and work on her!

postanevent · Oct 24th, 2012, 05:49 PM

It's happened before. I recommend partying hard together with a couple rolls and seeing where it goes....

~~shazz~~ · Oct 25th, 2012, 08:31 AM

I’m going to give you a hint…Q tips….when using said device to clear out your ear of wax after you take a long shower?
Well when you feel pressure STOP! YOU ARE CAUSING BRAIN DAMAGE!

On a good day women are nuts! Ever wonder why a cat would rather chase a string than play with the toy in front of it?
A woman, even one with a PhD will overlook the perfect man in front of her for the tool/dick/****tard and then get her ass dumped /abused/used and then come and bitch to you.

Listen to your GOD! THE ONE THE ONLY SHAH! WALK THE HELL AWAY!

Jul 18th, 2011, 09:19 AM	#1 (permalink)
MaxPower Addict in Training Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: USA Posts: 6	Girls...can you EVER fall for your best guy friend? So, Im gonna cut to the chase...I been in love with my best friend for 3 years now...we been friends since we were 15...im 28 now...never had these feeligns for her...we owuld go out in groups, never once thought of her as more...until 3 years ago i got her a job with me, and 6 months later i was hooked - Ive told her a fwe times how i felt, she knows...but its just never going anywhere, and i dont know what else to do anymore...im DEEP in the friend zone...she tells me "problems" with her receent boyfriend, but never good things...a whole year and i ONLY HEAR about the bad things and how they broke up...she complains to me constantly...and im always there to listen and help her...I do evertyhign for her..i feel like im the bf with none of the good stuff...lol while she goes out with other guys....I WANT to be her friend, but i cant get rid of the feelings...it doesnt help that i see her EVERY SINGLE DAY at work...I guess i just wanna know IF she were to EVER change her feelings...what is my best course of action...like to i continue to be nice, or ttreat her like crap? I cant say no to her, and i want to do SO much more and BE so muhc more to her....

Jan 8th, 2012, 09:22 AM	#3 (permalink)
lilacfairy DI Extreme Addict Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: UK Posts: 1,238	given that you've told her and that she has declined, and that she tells you stuff she'd usually only tell her girl friends, altogether I'd say you're pretty much without a chance. sorry! she knows you too well to never have noticed that she might be attracted to you and she knows all your little faults too well to ignore them. One of my best friends is a guy and even though he's attractive, over time I got to know all his little flaws, that I don't mind in him as a friend ... but in a relationship they would drive me mad! all in all, when a girl says she's not into you, she means it, trust me. if you persevere, you only risk losing her as a friend as well. __________________ Dancing is carrying your soul out onto the dancefloor. - lilacfairy ROLF MAIER BODE - THIRTEEN NIGHTS www.rolfmaierbode.com/blog/2010/12/09/thirteen-nights/#comment-4668 myspace.com/rolfmaierbode

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Jan 6th, 2012, 11:50 AM	#2 (permalink)
Xiare Junior Addict Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: USA Posts: 33	Not me. But test out the possibility. If, in conversation, you stand slightly closer to her, does she move closer or pull away? That's a pretty good guage of your immediate chances.

Jun 7th, 2012, 03:40 PM	#4 (permalink)
Ale>< Junior Addict Join Date: May 2012 Location: England, UK Posts: 26	Sorry to hear that bro, thats not a good position to be in. Chances are, if you were both into each other in 'that way' it would've happened naturally by now. You could try just asking her outright how she feels, but honestly, that will probably just drive a wedge between your friendship and you could risk losing what you already have with her. A close friendship is a beautiful thing and i think you'd be better off trying to ignore those feelings for the sake of your friendship. I'v seen close friends of mine try to do the whole dating thing and it never works out. They just end up becoming friends again or avoiding each other completely. Sorry, it's not what you wanted to hear but i wish you all the best and i hope it works out for you.

Jun 8th, 2012, 03:25 PM	#5 (permalink)
Oleg Senior Forum Addict Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: USA Posts: 723	Some girls just want to be friends, and nothing more than that. Ah as man we always want hot girls :-)

Jun 30th, 2012, 12:45 AM	#6 (permalink)
sandrakannglassman Addict in Training Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: austrailia Posts: 0	I have fallen for all my guy friends. They love me and can't resist me. I like knowing that all men want me.

Aug 4th, 2012, 10:59 AM	#8 (permalink)
djlindo Junior Addict Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: USA Posts: 12	Your chances aren't really there until she realizes she misses you terribly. All girls like an asshole to a certain extent. Don't be just an asshole, but keep her entertained. You might be too much of a pushover for her to be interested like that. Advice: Don't be there for her always, play standoffish but when you do talk to her for a quick minute make sure you keep her laughing and in a great mood. If all goes well, she'll miss you and wonder why you're being so "distant." If not, you're already too deep into the friend zone like someone else said and she doesnt want to mess up your guys friendship to test anything more.

Sep 26th, 2012, 03:31 PM	#9 (permalink)
~~shazz~~ Banned Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: USA Posts: 454	Don't listen to any of the w0men...you have a better chance of meeting jesus at your local titty club and having said jesus turn water into wine and buy you a lap dance before a w0man will convert a "friend" to a "boyfriend" If you are so stupid as to try ..... give me $500 I'll take you out back kick you quare in the nuts and we can call it even! So if the bitch puts you in the friend zone and you want to bone her....do what any good man would do....find her best firiend/sister/mother/twin...and work on her!

Oct 24th, 2012, 05:49 PM	#10 (permalink)
postanevent Addict in Training Join Date: Oct 2012 Location: USA Posts: 5	It's happened before. I recommend partying hard together with a couple rolls and seeing where it goes....

Oct 25th, 2012, 08:31 AM	#11 (permalink)
~~shazz~~ Banned Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: USA Posts: 454	I’m going to give you a hint…Q tips….when using said device to clear out your ear of wax after you take a long shower? Well when you feel pressure STOP! YOU ARE CAUSING BRAIN DAMAGE! On a good day women are nuts! Ever wonder why a cat would rather chase a string than play with the toy in front of it? A woman, even one with a PhD will overlook the perfect man in front of her for the tool/dick/**tard and then get her ass dumped /abused/used and then come and bitch to you. Listen to your GOD! THE ONE THE ONLY SHAH! WALK THE HELL AWAY!**