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Unread Aug 10th, 2006, 12:06 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Starting the conversation is not realy one of my problems, at least I dont think it is. Keeping it up for more than 2 minutes is something i need to concentrate on... this is what happens to me in the process: We start talking about some randomn topic and when that's exhausted there is this awkward pause during which i start thinking how do i keep the conversation going... what do I ask... etc. And I can be in that mental pause for at least a minute or untill I start thinking this person is no longer interested in keeping this conversation up.
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Unread Aug 10th, 2006, 12:09 AM   #2 (permalink)
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Did you watch Family Guy last night?

That usually saves me ^_-

I also really do suck at conversations, i just wait for one of my other freinds to bring somthing up :P
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Unread Aug 10th, 2006, 12:16 AM   #3 (permalink)
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randomn questions may save the conversation, but you can't use them everytime
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^True, making conversation is almost an art, im still yet to master it, but i have seen progress in the past 2-3 years, boy was i shy child
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Unread Aug 10th, 2006, 02:05 AM   #5 (permalink)
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this will always be a mystery to me, i'm totally crappy at small (and "medium") talk. my head keeps running "empty" i guess.

some people seems to never be short of a subject, whatever it is, always directing the conversation on new territories without getting boring, overly off topic or weird. they will always amaze me.

so i can't really help you
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People often like to talk about themselves so ask them questions about themselves.
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When you start talking about a random topic, try to not let it end. Find something that can relate to your topic and branch off there. Once you start going off on bizarre tangents, back track and try to remember how each of you go to that point in the conversation. Its always fun to do that.
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People often like to talk about themselves so ask them questions about themselves.
Yes that has always worked for me but there were 1-2 times that the other person was desperately waiting me to ask something about himself and when i did...he went on and on and on....OMG ,so boring
I pretended to listen but my mind was elsewhere
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I'm sort of like that too, but only with some people. I was pretty extroverted back in my country. I was a class clown in school and just always very social. But then coming here and not being able to speak a word in English changed me a whole lot in a negative way. I'm more quiet than i ever was before.
Still though, there are people i just don't know what the hell to talk about, yet there are some i can rable with all day along about one single thing lol. I guess i would say that i'm sort of bad with casual talks, unless i know the person i'm talking to or i'm just drunk.
If it's a formal discussion, like at school or work, oh man, i can bullshit about that all day long. I guess you just have to figure out what the other person's like. What they like to do, their hobbies and etc and then start from there.
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People often like to talk about themselves so ask them questions about themselves.
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Also the more you know, the more you'll have to talk about. Find mutual interests and let the conversation flow~

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Generally food makes excellent conversation, because everyone can relate to it and nobody gets tired of it.
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wOMEN often like to talk about themselves so ask them questions about themselves.
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^^ but talking about food usually makes me hungry. And being hungry makes me grumpy. In spite of that, I agree that food is a good choice.

If you're willing to get a casual education, ask questions about something the other person is very experienced and knowlegeable about. This doesn't mean you have to sit through a full recitation of their doctorate thesis, it's alright to interrupt politely when something they say sparks a tangental thought. Conversation should not be one person talking too much to another person who is barely staying awake. If everyone in the conversation is involved, ie engaged, then more people are having a good time.

There's also the fear of silence in so many social situations, we do mask it with appropriate background music, but the awkward lull in conversation does exist, but never-ever-please-God-don't, bring up the worthless statistic that states; every 7 minutes there's a lull in conversation, or that every seven minutes someone thinks about Abraham Lincoln and that someone is destined to mention it.
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now does the root of all drama become clear? something to talk about...

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Oh.my.good I actually got tears in my eyes for laughing so hard

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^ wow, I wish I were that easily amused.
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Jack Daniels and coke helps keep the conversation flowing . The downside is you probably will remember nothing of what you actually said the next day
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. The downside is you probably will remember nothing of what you actually said the next day
Depending on what you talked about that might be a good thing
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go up tp them and pinch them and then ask.

Did that hurt?
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